Fake it ‘till you make it
I’m sure you’ve heard the saying “Fake it ‘till you make it.“ Do you believe in it?
I certainly do when it comes to feelings. Let’s say you have a goal and you know how you will feel when you get there. Then you find a way of feeling like that right now, and it will come with more ease – and faster. But that’s a very abstract and – one might even say – spiritual way of looking at this saying.
But does this also work when it comes to being happy? Can acting happy make you happy?
Suppressing sad feelings is not the answer
I don’t really believe in the approach of just pretending to be happy when you’re actually not. That is suppressing your actual feelings, and that is never healthy. Acknowledge your feelings, whether they are pleasant or not. Don’t pretend they are not there. Suppressing them will not make them go away. They will just bubble up again later.
Start your day laughing
I do, however, believe in one practical approach where “fake it ‘till you make it“ actually works – scientifically proven even. And that is: Look in the mirror, and laugh at yourself. Actually, you don’t even have to look at yourself. You can do it anytime. Smile, laugh, get the corners of your mouth up. This upwards movement signals to your brain that you’re happy. And it will produce hormones and other stuff accordingly.
You will feel ridiculous in the beginning, but it will getter better, and you may end up laughing your cute butt off. Which is a good thing. Because laughing usually means that you’re having fun.
So, the answer to the question „can acting happy make you happy“ is a definite yes – if you know how.
Have you ever tried this? I’d love to hear about your experience.