Darling, I have a confession to make: I hate meditation.
It may sound weird coming from someone who talks about living a happy, and content life. I mean, everyone is telling you that you should meditate, how great it is, how it makes you a happier person, that it make you healthy, and all of these beautiful things. And I wholeheartedly believe those people.
And yet, knowing all of that, I feel completely turned off by it. I tried, I really tried. Sitting down, lying down, while walking, guided, on my own, with background music, with burning candles, at night before bed, in the morning after getting up, on my own, and in a group. I really tried to make this wonderful tool work for me. But it just doesn’t. So I am done trying.
Not everything is for everyone
Why I’m telling you this? Because I want you to know that you don’t have to like doing all of the things that people tell you are good for you. Not even if I say it. Not everything is for everybody (even though science is completely on meditation’s side). And that is totally ok.
So take the pressure off, don’t force yourself to use alleged happiness tools if they don’t work for you. That is point one I want to make.
It’s more than a word
Here comes point two: It is so easy to get turned off by a word. Because it has become a buzz word that seems to haunt you, or because you don’t like the person who introduced you to it. The problem with that is, that hating a word can make us dismiss a whole concept that we actually might benefit from. Remember the interview with Clare, and how she used to hate the word self-care?
The many forms of meditation
What I’ve come to realize is that while I don’t like meditating, I love getting still, and think, and feel – and write. We have this picture in our heads that meditation has to be sitting on a meditation pillow on the floor, incense burning in the background, not thinking about anything for an hour.
But there are many forms of meditation – walking, sitting, even sleeping (Yoga Nidra, go check it out). My boyfriend considers running his form of meditation. And for me it is writing. Not really the picture that comes up when you google meditation, is it?
Look at meditation in a different way
So, what I want to leave you with is this idea: Instead of “meditating“, give yourself a little time each day to focus on you, your feeling state, your worries, your joys, your desires. Get still, get quiet, stop thinking about your to-do’s, and witness the thoughts that want your attention.
Mediation is not about not thinking anything at all. It can be, but it doesn’t have to be. In my opinion, meditation is mostly about finding a connection to ourselves, in whichever form that may happen: running, yoga, walking, sleeping, writing – or actually sitting down on your cute tush.
I don’t know how you feel about meditation – maybe you love it, maybe you’ve never tried it, maybe you hate it? I would love to know. And then I would love for you to look at it with fresh eyes. Let me know your thoughts in the comments.